Life has its paradoxes. As children we long for the adulthood that liberates us from parents, yet we want their approval and acceptance. The authors of The Blessing believe we can enjoy both experiences.
Smalley and Trent capture the essential elements of the Old Testament blessing, identifying and picturing its variations. The authors also relate modern, real-life stories about men and women who suffer because they did not receive a childhood blessing from their families.
The book outlines five necessary elements for the blessing: (1) a significant touch—a hug, kiss, laying on of hands, etc.; (2) a spoken message; (3) attaching "high value" to the one blessed; (4) picturing a special future for the one blessed; and (5) an active commitment by the one giving the blessing to fulfill it.
The Blessing gives us a simple but challenging message: family members yearn to know they are valuable and needed, and they deserve such acknowledgement. The authors fill each chapter with insights and illustrations useful for teachers and pastors. Two of the chapters describe homes where no blessing exists. Two others tell how family and church can give the blessing.
Both authors are skilled counselors. Smalley, a nationally known speaker and writer, specializes in family matters. Currently president of Today's Family in Phoenix, Arizona, he holds degrees in psychology and theology. Trent works with Smalley as associate director. He has a doctorate in marriage and family counseling and a master's degree in theology.
The book gives guidance in creating the kind of supportive climate called for by the Project Affirmation Valuegenesis study. I recommend The Blessing for pastors, counselors, teachers, and parents.
